Sunday, August 2, 2009

Fine Line

This afternoon, my friend popped up on my iChat with the comment, "You're Kate Monster."

I had no idea what she was talking about, but, a couple of YouTube links later, it turns out that I am (and she is, and probably a lot of you are) Kate Monster from Avenue Q.

And here's the thing ... we all spend so much time thinking about this and complaining about this, but no one can seem to connect with each other. We're all on the internet, social networking, dating sites, commenting on blogs and news stories and "liking" people's status updates. But no one is actually speaking to each other.

I've been meeting (not in real life yet) a lot of new people since I've started this blog. I've been reading other unemployed blogs. I've been fielding a lot of e-mails. And it seems there are a lot of people out there just looking to connect, on a for real, not just virtual, level with someone else. When it comes to Kate Monster, she's talking about dating, about finding a man, and, I guess a lot of the time, so am I. And I wondered how the lyricist ended up in my head. Or if it really just sucked so much to be single in New York. Her answer? "It's the anthem of all young single people in NY?"

How sad.

You can follow the link, and probably would find yourself relating to more than one of the characters, but ... here are some of the lyrics from the first song, "Sucks To Be Me":

Your problems aren't so bad!
I'm kinda pretty
And pretty damn smart.

You are.

I like romantic things
Like music and art.
And as you know
I have a gigantic heart
So why don't I have
A boyfriend?
It sucks to be me!

And here's a bit from the second, "There's a Fine, Fine Line":

There's a fine, fine line between a fairy tale and a lie;
And there's a fine, fine line between "You're wonderful" and "Goodbye."
I guess if someone doesn't love you back it isn't such a crime,
But there's a fine, fine line between love
And a waste of your time.

If it is the anthem of the young and single in New York, how come none of us have figured out a way around it? Are we all just typing away on our computers, looking at profiles on one of the hundreds of dating websites, not really ever able to break free of that stigma of what it's supposed to be to be young and single in New York? Are people just staying in shit relationships (don't pretend you don't know those who have done that!) just because being the single one sucks?

Just a couple of things, gentle readers, for you to ponder on your Sunday night.


  1. Is this about the unemployed and what happened to the job market or just another train of personal thoughts without any concrete thinking or planning. I am looking for answers to many questions like; is the job market reliable? Any ideas where to go next besides my parents house? Why is the city closing public services like post offices and laying off officers? How really bad is the economy? How secure are we when ready to retire if still alive?

  2. Dear Anonymous/John -

    This is a personal blog (that is why it is sub-titled "ONE GIRL'S PERSPECTIVE on being unemployed and single in greenpoint, brooklyn") and you are under no obligation to read it.

    Please top spamming my comment section with rude, inappropriate and off-topic commentaries.

    It's getting old.

  3. I think that guy needs to write his own blog and stop spamming other people's.