Monday, October 31, 2011

Wearing Disguises

Gentle readers, today is Halloween.
It's a day of masks and disguises. It's a day of dressing up as someone else.
Sometimes those costumes are aspirational, sometimes motivational, (sometimes just ridiculous).

But we put on costumes every day, don't we?

We show one mask at the office, another to our lover, another to our parents or long-time friends. We put on costumes to steel ourselves against a potentially very bad day. In hopes of making a day better. In preparation for the best and for the worst.

Your MatchGirl, gentle readers, does this, too.

It's only human, I think.

But are there times when this can hurt us? Or, are there times when we should be wearing disguises when we don't have them on?

Your MatchGirl is thinking particularly about the workplace. The average 9-to-5 is not News Radio or Bones or even Cheers. Even if you get along very well with your colleagues, your workplace is probably not where the majority of what's important in your life really goes down. Sure, it's the place where you spend the most time. And it's so good to get along with those people that you are spending 8+ hours a day with. But do you need to show them all of you?

This is something your MatchGirl has been considering lately. When can showing too much of who you are - too much of what makes you tick - be detrimental to you at your job?

Maybe it's good to put on a mask before you head out to your morning commute.
What do you think?


  1. For me, going to work - especially on a Monday - requires lots of extra protection: all kinds of shields, bullet-proof vests, containment fields, you name it. Not so much a mask as PPEs (personal protective equipment). Without these things the slings and arrows just penetrate too deep. The goal - though it can't be reached at work - is not to have a mask: to be completely yourself and be with others who are completely themselves. That is where real life lies, when our hearts are completely open to one another.

  2. Thanks for your comment. I think a lot of people will see themselves in it.