Monday, July 26, 2010

The Waiting Is The Hardest Part

Patience is a virtue.
-Piers Plowman

Good things come to those who wait.

Things will be just fine
You and I'll just use a little patience.
-Axl Rose

You take it on faith, you take it to heart
The waiting is the hardest part.
-Tom Petty

Patience is the art of hoping.
-Vauvenargues, Marquis de quotes

Ah, gentle readers, your MatchGirl keeps hearing about the virtue of patience.  And, while she understands that one can't force some subjects and while she understands that one can't push others and while she understands that sometimes there is simply a time-line beyond one's control - she still hates waiting.

Relying on others to come to a decision is one of the most frustrating things in the world.  Because, no matter how hard you've worked towards something or how much you've given of yourself or how much you've put yourself out there - the waiting is the hardest part.

(I've written about it here before)

In dating, it's the waiting for the call.  It's the waiting for the first kiss.  It's the waiting, when (or once) you know what you want from someone - the them to come to the same (you hope) or another (disappointing, yet often inevitable) conclusion.

In the job hunt, it comes after you've sent out hundreds of resumes and are not hearing anything back.  It comes after that first interview, when you are just hoping that they'll call you back.  It comes later you've learned, through your well networked grapevine, that they've checked your references and  you just sit hitting "refresh" on your e-mail browser for hours - no, days - on end.  Waiting for any word.  For any answer.

Recently, for millions of unemployed, it's been in waiting for Congress to come back from yet another vacation (read: campaign trip back home) and vote on a bill that affects your every day life - your ability to pay your rent or keep your electricity on or feed your kids.

It's hard to be patient, dear ones.  It's hard to be patient because, many times, that patience means that you have little or no control over the outcome for which you are waiting.


  1. Aww! I'm sure you will find the right guy. Along the way someone fun and charming may appear, just live your life and enjoy it.

  2. The previous poster is an idiot! I sincerely appreciate your compassion and furthermore, interest in others (particularly because you are gainfully employed)! How did you find a job? Thank you for caring.

  3. The waiting is brutal (on all fronts), it drives me absolutely insane. Thanks for posting on this.