Ah, gentle readers. Your MatchGirl is not a fan of waiting. That is not to say that I cannot be a patient girl, but when I want something to happen, I want it to happen. I believe in doing what I can to make things happen and I believe in trying to figure out how to make things happen when I'm not sure.
To be honest, when it comes to an income, I am very much in the position where I am trying to figure out how to make things happen - as I'm not really sure what my next step ought to be. And full-time employment, job interviews, even, seem to elude me.
This is a post about waiting.
This is yet another post about how looking for a job and the dating world are so very much the same game.
In both, you need to show interest. But just enough. Too much interest and you may seem a little creepy or obsessive. Too little interest and you will not be taken seriously.
In both job seeking and dating, you need to show up the first time ready to make the best impression. The right shoes. The right outfit. Hair coiffed exactly right. You need to have fresh breath and the right accessories on hand, be it resumes or condoms, prepared for anything.
You need to spend a lot of time looking. And I mean a lot. Whether you are trolling the job sites on line or obsessively e-mailing employers you'd just like to work for, it's not so different than paging through the dating sites or keeping an eye to Missed Connections (just in case that cute boy in the jeans and sneakers with ironic glasses noticed you, too). Putting together your LinkedIn profile is pretty much the same as filling out your page on Nerve.com. Either way, it's upon you to sell yourself in a very short amount of space - to make people want to e-mail you.
In my humble experience, however, dear ones, the biggest similarity is the waiting. And the waiting. And the waiting.
You go on an interview. You send your Thank You e-mails and/or letters. And then you wait. Perhaps you phone them or e-mail them again. But mostly, you wait - either for rejection or confirmation. You just hope that they ask you in again.
You are introduced to a gentleman (or lady) by mutual friends. You chat. You have a drink. Perhaps you share some food. You feel like you'd like to get to know this person better. They ask for your number/e-mail/card, so you feel like they'd like to know you better as well. And then you wait. And you wait. And that's just the way things go.
Your MatchGirl is not good at this kind of waiting. She likes to have a plan - to have action - to know what is going to happen next. I feel the same disappointment when I don't hear back from a prospective employer regarding my interviews (I understand that not every applicant will receive acknowledgment of their submission, but after one or two interviews a courtesy e-mail or call is only appropriate!) as when that cute guy that asked for my number/e-mail/card doesn't call. The worst part of it? Knowing there is nothing I can do about it.
Image from some kid's project on the 70s and 80s