Gentle readers, your MatchGirl is a big fan of the gentler things in this life. Politeness. Concern. Trust. Respect. It's something that I've been thinking a lot about lately, as my faithful readers know.
Why is it, in this modern world, that people have such a hard time treating others the way that they, themselves, would like to be treated?
My new boss wrote an article for our company blog about doing business with a pinky swear fairly recently. He is a big believer in trusting people until they give him reason not to. I like this. We all want to be trusted, but then we turn around and are so very distrustful of others. Living in a city, one needs to walk a fine line, between trusting and naivete, but, to be generally trusting and trustful, to be respectful of others, that's not such a bad way to live your life.
Recently, dear ones, your MatchGirl was involved in the kind of display of disrespect that is usually reserved for 8th Grade girls and bored ladies who lunch. I was on the receiving end of some very intense bitchiness. I won't bore you with the details, it wouldn't make sense unless you knew all parties involved. But it was pointed and mean and the only point of it was to hurt my feelings. It's been a long time since i've been faced with that situation.
Sure, I've written here previously about people being disrespectful of others, of not valuing their time, either in the workplace or their personal lives. Whether the people who had you in for two interviews and checked all your references and never even sent you an email to say you didn't get the job or the guy who you dated for three weeks who just stopped phoning, it just sucks to be treated rudely. It sucks to have someone be an out and out bitch to your face.
I just want to remind you, dear readers, that we're only as good as we treat other people.
So be nice to each other.